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According to Krystle Crossman of
Healthy Black Woman , it is a sad and
unfortunate fact that many women
are in abusive relationships. It is an
even more unfortunate fact that
many of them don’t realize what
path the relationship is headed down
until it is too late.
Crossman lists some warning signs
that you may be in an abusive
relationship and should get out
before it gets worse:
1. When you are around other people
your partner likes to humiliate
you: They will call you names and
degrade you in front of anyone that
you meet. They do this to have
dominance in the relationship. They
like to destroy your self-worth so that
you feel like you don’t deserve
anyone better.
2. You are not allowed to make your
own decisions: They decide where you
go, when you go, who you are friends
with, and what you are allowed to
wear. You have no control over your
life anymore. Your independence is
gone and they control every little
thing that you do.
3. When you have done something that
they don’t like or are not doing
something they want they will threaten
you: It may be a threat of physical
harm or something else such as
ending the relationship. Many
women pa$$ this off because they
feel that they are empty threats but
they often turn into real threats
which they act upon.
4. If they are spoken to about their
abusive behavior they will pass the
blame off on you stating that you
deserved it: They will deny that they
are doing anything wrong and state
that if you didn’t do certain things
they wouldn’t have to hurt you.
5. If you are financially dependent on
them they will use money against
you: They will threaten to leave and
take everything. They will give you
an “allowance” and not let you touch
the money that comes in. They may
even restrict you from working so
that you depend completely on them
for income.
6. They will limit or completely destroy
any relationship that you have with
your family and friends: They do not
want you to talk to others about the
relationship and they do not want
other people putting ideas in your
head. This gives them complete
control.
7. If you have children together they
will often use them against you: They
will turn the children against you by
lying to them. They will use the
children as a bargaining tool if they
feel like you are going to leave them.
8. They will make you fear
them: Intimidation is a way for them
to control you and make sure you do
everything that they want. They
want to make sure that you are
afraid to do anything wrong and too
afraid to leave.